Guest Post: Search for Peace within Oneself


While peace, happiness and contentment are indeed elusive, subjective and abstract matters, it must be remembered that it arises from the self and not outside it. In real terms, it is the self who makes one happy or unhappy and humans are indeed at the mercy of oneself and not the external world for gaining and maintaining happiness and contentment. Thus, nobody could make another happy or unhappy, just as it is oneself that could lead another to peace, happiness and contentment.

Carrying the argument further, it may be stated that a man could be happy even in the midst of extreme adversities, trials and tribulations, and conversely, depressed even in the most favourable  and brightest of conditions, depending on his mindset, disposition, outlook, attitude and perception of life and what it throws at him- happiness or sorrow.  It is the perception of human mind to external perspectives and its interpretations that matters. The classic and trite illustration could be that of a half-filled glass of water with the optimist commenting that is was half full, while the pessimist contributed that it was half empty. It could also be in terms of a preacher who, preaching the evils of alcohol, first place a can of worms in water and the audience found that worms were swimming merrily and with gay abandon in it. However, in a glass of alcohol, the worms shrivelled up and died the next moment. When asked what the audience learned from this experience, one among the audience, in a vein of humour, remarked that if one did not want worms in one’s stomach, then, one should drink alcohol. The humour aside, this informs us that there are also two sides to every argument and it is which is more robust and conning that matters.

Now that it has been keenly adjudged that one is solely responsible for one’s own state of peace, happiness or contentment, and that nobody could snatch away happiness from oneself, the next issue is how humans could pursue the goal of happiness without treading on the happiness of others. The solution is simple in that we should do onto others what we wish others to do onto us, nothing more and nothing less.

If we wish to injure, hurt or criticize ourselves, then by all means we should try to injure, hurt or criticise others. As a philosopher said that we should do to others what we wish others to do to us. Love begets love, and hatred produces hatred. In same measure, and this is a fully applicable universal philosophy that cannot be denied.

Another aspect that one must remember is that our happiness in this world is like a limited bank account with money in the account. The more happiness we withdraw from this bank, the smaller the balance of happiness remains until one day  we have overdrawn happiness and now running a deficit account or in other words, a shortage of happiness and abundance of grief, sorrow and disenchantment.  So the catch is that we must be wise, careful and judicious about drawing happiness from God’s account and only enjoy that degree of happiness that we have rightly earned and thoroughly deserve to gain and enjoy. We must understand that the account is not perpetual and we would need to also grieve later, to offset the overdose of happiness.

The moral of the article is that we should take our pleasures and happiness in moderation and refrain from ostentatious and uncontrolled pleasure seeking  that is not only transitory but also capable of bring great deal of unhappiness  later since the gravity of life needs to be maintained and upheld.

Author Bio:

Charles Wright is a regular writer here at He loves technology and also works with schools to design curriculum that also utilises mobile technology. He has a blog where he posts articles that help students develop a love for gardening and nature.